Te amo. Ti amo. Je t’aime. Ich liebe dich. Aloha wau ia ‘oe. Wo ie ni. Every language has a way to express the words we all long to hear: I love you. Whether it’s coming from our beloved granny or from that extra special “Boo”, ‘I love you’ always makes our hearts do a happy dance. But as sweet as those words sound, without the actual display of love, those three little words remain only three meager, insignificant, empty words.
More than anything else love is verb, a bona fide action word. It’s not a word that should be used solely to get someone in bed. It is not a word that should be used to manipulate people. It is not word that should be used with conditions attached. It’s not was word that should be used only when things are going well. First Kings, chapter 3 tells the story of how Solomon acquired his great wisdom. Also tucked away in this chapter is a very short story that depicts a beautifully accurate picture of love. Two women who lived in the same house gave birth to sons only a couple of days apart. One of the ladies’ babies died. As a result, she stole the other woman’s well son by replacing him with her deceased baby during the night. When the other mother woke up to feed the child, she realized the baby was not alive and the baby was not hers. Needless to say an argument ensued. The disputed women went before King Solomon looking for him to give a resolution. “A sword was brought, and Solomon ordered, ‘Cut the baby in half! That way each of you can have part of him.’ ‘Please don’t kill my son,’ the baby’s mother screamed. ‘Your majesty, I love him very much, but give him to her. Just don’t kill him.’ The other woman shouted, ‘Go ahead and cut him in half. Then neither of us will have the baby.’” (1 Kings 3:24-26 CEV). The narrative goes on to say that Solomon gave the baby to the first woman because her love was obvious. That’s the thing about genuine, sincere, real-deal, unconditional love. When the sword is brought, the love remains unmovable and you never have to question about it. The actual mother was willing to sacrifice being a mother rather than see her son die. The other lady only wanted to share her misery, no matter who it hurt. Who does that remind you of? Never forget that the enemy’s only mission is to kill, steal, and destroy by any means necessary. The enemy makes things like pre-marital sex seem harmless and mature. But then a young woman is left broken hearted and humiliated because the man she loved only loved the relations, not the relationship.
Satan has convinced the world that love only needs to be said and not lived. Broken promises, missed commitments, lost opportunities, thoughtless gifts, and tearful memories do not constitute love. Loved ones recognize and honor sacrifice. They notice when someone is “all-in” for the relationship. In other words, don’t just talk about it, be about it. First Corinthians 13 details the characteristics of love. It’s a magnificent passage. Yet, even beyond that we have the ultimate example in God the Father. He sent His only Son to die for the sins we committed, so that the gap between God and His beloved people could be mended. Jesus the Son fulfilled His purpose on Calvary until it was completely finished. Even though He had the ability and the right to not even go through with the crucifixion in the first place. Christ Jesus loves us so much as joint heirs that He is still interceding for us even at this very moment. The commitment of the Holy Trinity never wavers. Their love is consistently visible and never ends. So let’s stop playing these games with love. If you mean it, show it. If you don’t mean it, certainly don’t lie about it. Lying about love causes more emotional grief and spiritual death then you can ever imagine. If you don’t understand what love really is, seek the Master and allow Him to enlighten you, because when it’s all said and done, only love will remain.