From UNsolicited dating advice, to UNsolicited “hook-up” suggestions. From people trying to introduce me to their sons, brothers and friends, I get it all. And that’s just scratching the surface. Real talk, if I had a penny for every time someone tried to push me into a relationship, I’d take those pennies, put them in a sock and BEAT the person trying to hook me up, lol. Okay, I’m joking. Although I understand the sincerity behind the actions, RARELY do I have someone actually ASK me what I want. No, most just assume…
Because I don’t really discuss my personal life most assume I’m either on the verge of eloping or one step away from joining a convent, lol. And I get it. People are curious. But here’s the thing, I just don’t view relationships like most do. And because I don’t, I’m not quick to dive into anything casually. Really, if it were just about a marriage, I could’ve married already. No, to me it’s about more that. And I don’t believe we can just cover our eyes, throw a dart and that’s all there is to it. I don’t believe we should date haphazardly. And ultimately, I believe marriage is a call, not simply a choice.
And I know I sound old-fashioned but I still believe God is better at matchmaking than we could ever be. I believe He sees what we can’t, knows what we don’t and can discern beyond our comprehension. And, I can soberly say in CHOOSING not to be casual with who I share my time with, God has preserved me in ways I never thought possible. Truly, you can’t buy this kind of peace. It’s amazing. And at the end of the day, I’d rather operate in caution now then end up with a man-made mess later. It’s with that in mind that I’m allowing GOD to govern my courting decisions rather than flesh.
And, that’s just where I am with it.
Thanks to all of those who always show concern. It’s partially appreciated, lol. Seriously, know that when I finally do CHOOSE to give someone my unwavering “yes” it won’t be because I followed a trend or the advice of some person who barely knows me. It won’t be because I settled. It won’t even be because I met someone who appeared to be what I needed. No, when I marry it will be because my spirit will bear witness to an agreement that was made long before I knew “him.” It will be because whoever my him is had the fortitude and patience it took to learn me, court me AND win me. And when I meet him, I won’t have to study him and wonder, “…is he him?”….no, there will just be a discerning. An assessing. And a knowing…
And it is so.
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