This blog below was written by my Pastor’s wife, First Lady June Robertson, in response to a brother’s question, concerning living with his girlfriend. In the old days, we use to call it “shacking”.
Beloved, I asked Sister Robertson’s permission to share this information with the Body of Christ, in particular because I am aware that this type of teaching is needed in the church. I am hopeful that perhaps many will avoid the pain, shame, and consequences that sexual immorality and immoral lifestyles cause. For truly, it causes many in the Body of Christ to fall short of the blessings that God has designed for them.
Beloved, I pray to God that many will be encouraged to make the right choice of abstinence until marriage, and save themselves of the shame and pain, compromise that one feels when they commit sin against one’s own body. I pray that you will apply the word and wait on the Lord. Beloved, know that God feels you are worth waiting on the husband or wife that He has on his heart for his beloved daughters and sons. Wait I say on the Lord, and He will give you the desire of your heart.
Sister Betty, In Christ, The Plan He Has For Me is Win, Win.
My Fiancé and I live together and are expecting to get married sometime in the near future. We did not start out to live together but she did not have stable housing and we were both incurring living expenses (bills). She began just staying with me for a time but now has moved into my home. I do want to do what’s right in the sight of the Lord but feel like this is the best situation and that what we are doing is not wrong. We are both believers and attend church regularly. Do you think that this is wrong?
The Word bless in the Bible is translated from the Hebrew word Barak which means Empowered to prosper, anointed, sacred, set apart, consecrated and abundant.
Your lifestyle however suggests that you are falling short of the blessing that God has designed for you. In the Bible we are told that marriage is sacred and honorable. “Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous. (Hebrews 13:4 Amplified)
Countless of us have good intentions and end up in a bad situation. So many of the people in the Bible days such as king David didn’t start out to do wrong but found themselves in an uncomfortable place. The bible also says “There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us lonelier than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please; squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body… (1st cor. 6:18). My friend even if you are not intimate (fornicating) the bible says that we should not let our good be evil spoken of. This is to say if people may think that we are living in sin it diminishes our ability to witness to them. It shines a negative light on Christ especially for non believers. You must correct this situation and stop shacking. You cannot live together. There is no blessing in that. Your bills may get paid but you cannot receive a blessing on your relationship. You are making soul ties friend that are not easily broken. Too many times we delay God’s promise. We delay His favor because of our limited thinking. God has good plans for you, plans to prosper you and to bring you to an expected end!
The Ripple Effect
Each choice we make causes a ripple effect in our lives. When things happen to us, it is the reaction we choose that can create the difference between the
Sorrows of our past
And the joy in our future