Because of the nature of my call, I tend to minister to a lot of singles. In doing so, I’ve noticed several reoccurring themes within the mindset of the ministry as a whole. One of them is that it seems as if almost everyone is feverishly getting themselves “ready” for their respective spouses.

It’s fascinating.

 On one end you have the single person who spends all their time attempting to reach this ideal state of perfection in hopes that the “perfection” itself will position them to receive the spouse of their dreams. Then on the other end we see the single that has the “take-me-as-I-am-or-have-nothing-at-all” perspective and is often unwilling to change to be better for their future spouse. So, in assessing the varying perspectives I asked God, “Whose way of thinking is right?” In seeking clarity, I gathered this conclusion:

 The answer is c) None of the above (smile).

Understand, both of the aforementioned types fail because both tend to miss the mark in their approach.  In short: Right actions. Wrong motives.

See, people are racing to get themselves together and the truth of the matter is none of us could even save ourselves, let alone transform ourselves. It’s like I always say, people can’t change people, God does. Think about it, if we could change ourselves what would we need Jesus for? Really, that’s what the power of The Cross is all about. Transfiguration!

Now, is this to say I believe everyone should stop striving to be better? Absolutely not! No, in fact, in my life I press daily to become not just a greater woman, but a greater vessel. And I can’t speak for anyone else but I plan on bringing sexy back AND adding a whole new meaning to the phrase “A Good Thing” LOL! And let the church say, “Ahhhmen!” LOL! Ok, I’m only halfway joking but my point is this (smile):

If you’re going to work toward being perfected, let GOD be your motivating factor, not man! Trust, changing for fickle folk who don’t know who they are, nor what they want will only leave you frustrated.

Plus, God’s perfection is not even defined as our version perfection. In fact perfect in the Bible doesn’t even mean perfect, it means mature. And did you know that everyday God is uniting people to their “Ones” void of what we perceive as the “perfect conditions?” There are folk with credit problems getting married. There are people still busy on the grind yet managing to find time to discover their spouses. And there are even folk with terminal illnesses finding love and enjoying it for as long as God grants them time on earth to share it. Now, imagine that. God uniting imperfect people, in un-ideal circumstances to serve as a perfect example of what can happen if we enact His Will over ours. Wow…it would appear that God has some insight that we don’t.  How ‘bout that (smile).

And here’s the silver lining in it all, when you allow God to change you, not only does it realign your focus to Him, but by default, you’ll become a better spouse for your future mate anyway. Only then can you truly receive nothing less than HIS best for your life. And trust. When God does a thing, He does it well.

So, today I share these words simply as an encouragement and an exhortation. Continue to allow God to make you better. Whether physically, spiritually, financially or anything in between. Strive to be great in every area BUT not for people. No, if you’re going to do it, do it for God. Yeah. Do it because you love Him that much. And then watch as, at HIS appointed time, He opens your heart that you might share your love with who He’s purposed for your life. And it is so.

So, relax.

Flow with God.

Keep growing.

 Blessings